Finding the right surrogate is the most important issue all intended parents pursuing surrogacy have to deal with. Finally, it will be a woman who would become an integral part of your life for at least 12 months – and might become a huge burden – if not a problem -as well. Basically, there are only three available options – to find a surrogate on your own via the Internet, to ask your friend to carry your child for you, or use a specialized agency.
Searching on the Internet
Even if you have done extensive research and know a lot about surrogacy and its legal regulation in your own country, finding a surrogate on the Internet would be by far the riskiest option. It is difficult to believe that healthy, emotionally stable, trustworthy and open-minded women have enough time to hang out on various websites looking to help someone.
The most obvious outcome of dealing with an unknown party on the Internet is a simple scam. Your determination to becoming a parent and excitement from the fact that someone is eager to help might blind you. Intended parents become easy targets for women who ask money to prefer them over another couple or to cover medical tests and travel expenses associated with the first meeting and so on.
An independent search may seem like a more immediate route to having a baby and a good opportunity to save on agency fees, but it can present a number of costly risks.
Choosing among friends and relatives
First of all, congratulations on being lucky enough to have a family member or a friend who is willing to carry a baby for you. But before getting too excited it is worth making certain that your relative or friend meets all the criteria set for surrogates in Russia. That involves age, pregnancy history, physical health, social background, and so on. If a candidate does not meet the criteria mentioned in the law, a fertility clinic would never accept her as a candidate.
Apart from this, it is also important to think about possible outcomes of this hypothetical endeavor. Think about your relationship with this person. Have you had any argues or stressful situations before? Do you get along well with her husband or partner? How well you know her circle and how healthy her lifestyle is?
The surrogacy process will affect all parties and small things in your surrogate’s environment can have a great effect on her emotional and physical fitness.
Many people would think that working with a known surrogate will decrease the amount of legal work, but nothing could be further from the truth. Relationships between close friends or relatives are far more complicated than ones between unknown people, therefore are more prone to sudden escalations and changes.
Finally, by setting your mind on working only with someone from a close circle, you greatly limit your choices. Your personal relationships with this woman do not necessarily make her a perfect match. Remember that you are choosing someone for a very special mission.
Surrogacy agencies are companies that specialize on matching intended parents with surrogates and supporting both parties throughout their surrogacy journey by taking care of organizational, legal, and medical matters. They charge a fee for their services and are considered to be the safest way to pursue surrogacy because your relationships with a company are always based on a legal contract that has legal power. It is easier to hold accountable a company than to press charges against a person from the Internet or some acquaintance you agreed with verbally.
The right agency can become a true partner during the surrogacy journey. Their managers will take care of all appointments, translations, legalizations, legal paperwork and medical bills. It is important, however, to choose the right agency, with an impeccable reputation, good reviews, reputable experts and compassionate employees.
We are a trustworthy and reliable law firm, not just a common “surrogacy agency”. First of all, we have been with our clients for more than 17 consecutive years. Our lawyers were behind the most high-profile cases that eventually led to changes in laws regulating surrogacy in Russia making single intended parents – both men and women – eligible for gestational surrogacy programs.
Our coordinators put those years of work to create the largest database of potential surrogates and egg donors in Russia that guarantees a perfect match within 3 days. Finally, our partner IVF clinics work with most professional and experienced doctors in this area and provide exceptional quality services. We always deliver.