"Is it possible to force to give birth? No. Motivate? Yes"
There can be as many motivations as opinions on this account.
In turn, the difference of such opinions is directly proportional to the difference of social status expressing them. Moreover, the higher level on the social scale is taken by the speaker, the more odious is his opinion. Do you understand the logic? Not really? Now it will be quite clear.
Olga Glatsky, director of the youth policy department of the Sverdlovsk region, at a meeting with youth activists in Kirovgrad city, responding to a question about financing children's projects, said: “In principle, the state owes you [younger generation] nothing. You owe your parents who gave birth to you. The state did not ask them to give birth to you.”
Later, commenting on her statement, the official replied: “Slander. There was no such phrase in principle.”
A deputy of the Omsk City Council, Aleksey Provozin, believes that the state spends too much money on large families: “... My position is - if the sovereign’s will, then let the sovereign pay for the so-called large families ...”
Later, commenting on his statement, the official replied: “I wanted to say something completely different. I got a few drifts ... I apologize for the incorrect wording."
Opinion of the member of the Federation Council Tatiana Kusayko: “... Young women do not want to give birth. They give birth when there is a career, when there is already stability. ”
Later, commenting on her statement, the official answered: “I didn’t say that. This is misinterpreted. ”
The governor of Karelia, Arthur Parfenchikov, at the request of a resident of the Suojärvi District, who asked him to build a kindergarten, replied: “Let the father and grandfather care of your child.”
Gennady Onishchenko, the first deputy head of the State Duma Committee on Science and Education, called for spiritually motivating Russians to have children: “Payment of maternity capital works, but not as efficiently as we would like ... Our grandmothers, mothers gave birth to children, kept them stained mother's name. They did not demand maternity capital, apartments, or even kindergartens. ”
Deputy Prime Minister Tatyana Golikova proposes to stimulate the birth rate in Russia by increasing the affordability of housing: “When there is an apartment, the family feels calmer and more confident. It is clear, as soon as the housing issue appears, the mortgage issue appears. This is an additional financial burden. And already the family argues: is it necessary to have a second child? Maybe we should first pay the mortgage? "
The last three have not yet abandoned their words. But the trend continues ...
The professional opinion of the General Director of Rosyurconsulting, an expert in family law, Konstantin Svitnev:
There can be no other motivation for having children, except the need for children. This is the only concept that determines the reproductive behavior of a person. The child is desired, beloved. For parents it is an independent value and not a means of manipulation, allowing to solve some of their personal problems.
Of course, in different periods of life, depending on the circumstances, people, trying to become parents, are guided by various considerations:
- Compliance with public opinion and the implementation of social or family attitudes like: “A family must have children”, “Children are our everything”, “It is necessary to live for children”, “The family cannot be happy without a child”.
- Compliance with your own idea of ??yourself, your “ideal picture” of yourself, for example: “I always achieve my goal”, “I deserve to be a mother / father”, “I already have time to give birth”, etc.
- A way of self-realization and self-esteem, that is, a child is a way to increase self-esteem, to have something to praise and be proud of, or - to feel better than others.
- The child, as a way to influence the relationship with a partner: to achieve love and recognition, save the marriage, get married.
- A child, as a gift, debt repayment or as salvation for older parents. Your parents ask grandchildren, and so that they finally rejoice and calm down, you want to give birth to a baby. Or so that your parents do not suffer more from loneliness and lack of realization.
- A child, like an escape from loneliness, that there was always someone nearby.
- The guarantee of a comfortable old age, so that “there was someone to serve a glass of water”.
- The desire to have a child to be with him, communicate, play, care, educate, help, guide, love.
But the main motivation for the birth of a child should be indisputable one thing: the desire to have a child for the sake of the child.
Parental feelings are highly developed and not questioned. This is the new meaning of life and this is life itself.
And only this motivation should be the basis of social policy aimed at optimizing the development of the family institution and improving demographic processes.
A return to the traditional society according to Onishchenko is impossible, the striving for a society of the individualism according to Glatskih and Provozin, to the consumerist society of Kusayko and Golikova is unpromising. In today's world, for the birth of children, everything is necessary: ??the child should not reduce the material income of the family, should not reduce the potential opportunities for spending time and work (at the expense of kindergartens, schools, relatives / nannies, child-friendly urban environment). The state in all these processes plays a key role, otherwise the birth of children takes place in fact “contrary to” the current reality.
A person feels discomfort if he has fewer children than he wants. And if he does not have and cannot have children for the reason of infertility, then it is just a tragedy for him.
Still quite (from the point of view of eternity) it was recently accepted as an axiom that sterility is a fate from which it is meaningless and even immoral (from the point of view of most religions) to fight. In addition, most of the diseases that cause it, could not be cured or overcome in any other way. At present, although the number of infertile people in the world is not decreasing, but on the contrary, according to some estimates, is increasing, due to the deterioration of the ecological situation, the problem of infertility has a completely different meaning and formulation unfamiliar to all traditional societies. Now it is not “fate”, but a question of making decisions, sometimes very complex ones.
Now, any form of not only relative, but also absolute infertility of a couple or an individual can be overcome (and adoption will not be necessary), despite the fact that not all can still be cured.
With the advent of assisted reproductive technologies, in particular IVF, a choice has emerged in which the social parents of the child will still be the ones who initiated his birth. At the same time, there are now more options than before: a self-born child of a couple that is genetically native to both parents; adopted child, completely non-native genetically to both partners or consisting of one of them in a distant relationship.
And although, at the moment, those who face such a choice are not the majority of the population, but they are in the vanguard of human reproduction, and it is their appearance of the meaning of motherhood and fatherhood that reflects in a new way the huge differences between individual meanings and goals of parenthood, being an argument against excessive generalizations in this area, which are peculiar to social thinkers of various directions, from structural functionalists to completely non-specialists.
Based on the Russian media
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